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Theology of Sex

April 28, 2024
Adam Detamore
Message Description
Watch as Pastor Adam discusses what the Bible says about sex and how we can live it out, married or single.
Scripture Reference
Message Notes

Ephesians 5:31 NKJV
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

1. What is the biblical view on sex?

2. How do we live it out, married or single?


1. Sex is not a natural appetite.

1 Corinthians 7:1-2
Now regarding the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to abstain from sexual relations. 2 But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.

 2. Sex is not dirty.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5
The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. 4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer.

3. Sex is not for self-fulfillment.

Genesis 2:24 
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.


1. Sex is a uniting act.

1 Corinthians 6:17-20
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! 16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.”

17 But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. 18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. 19 Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, 20 for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

Every sex act is supposed to be a uniting act.

2. Sex is a commitment builder.


We cannot fulfill a spiritual longing with an earthly craving.

Ephesians 3:17-19
Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong. 18 And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is.

19 May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.

The Gospel is neither legalism nor a license.


Proverbs 5:18-19
Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.

Giving pleasure should be your greatest pleasure.

Sex is a barometer in marriage.

Matthew 19:4-6
And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the
beginning ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

Sex is a picture of being united to Christ in heaven.

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